How To Build Good Character

Building good character is all about addition, not subtraction. What I selfish is this: when it comes to change, our seat is repeatedly on the aspects of our lives that are bad. We try to cut out or cut off these negative or bad qualities. We try to improve by subtraction. That is not how you build good character.

It is the process of addition in your life that brings the character. In so doing, you automatically take care of the other negative aspects. As both a father and a pastor of a Sanctum, I look for ways to continually add to the character of those I am amenable for. The Bible teaches us this concept in 2 Peter 1: 5 - 9. We are to add things like faithfulness, patience, love, graciousness, faith, and so on. It is the process of adding these things to our lives that we gain the character to be fruitful in life.

But how do you add these things? First, let ' s look at what character is. Character is the subconscious doing of right. When doing things that you ought to do is instinctive and part of you then that is good character. When you pomp up on time out of habit that is good character. When you ' re honest by reflex that is good character. When you can force yourself to be kindly instinctively that is good character. When something miscalculated or bad is done habitually we call those bad habits. Doing things good or right out of habit is called good character.

It is not about taking away the negative. It is about adding those things to your life that become habitual. It is not about trying to not be overdue; it is about being on time. It is not about finding ways not to lie; it is about the truth. It is not about wrestling with your temper; it is about being considerate.

So how do you make something into a good habit? How do you build good character?

You practice it until it becomes part and parcel with you. You diligently seat on what you want to add and then practice it until it becomes a habit.

Let me give you some examples:

A young man in college, that I knew, had pain getting up when the alarm clock went off. He kept hitting the snooze button and always ended up rushing around so he wouldn ' t be overdue to class. He heard how massed guy solved the same problem, so he tried it too. When he had some free time, he set his alarm clock to go off in five minutes. He neighborhood down and tried to take a nap. When the alarm went off, he jumped straight up out of bed. He reset the alarm for other five minutes and did it again. He must have done that a dozen times. The next morning, when the strain note went off, he stood impartial up out of bed. He had hard his body to behave instinctively to the oppression. Directly he had no problems getting up in the morning.

I will consent that I am imperative of an introvert and a monk by nature. These are not good qualities for someone who is a cleric of a refuge. I patent my faults while in Bible College and decided to do something about it. I strong-willed to welcome everyone I axiom before they could welcome me. This forced me to be outgoing and clubby. It wasn ' t easy. Some folk are so outgoing that I literally had to holler a salute down the hallway location a dozen people could hear before the other person could welcome me. I did this for months and found myself being benevolent to people and more outgoing without having to think about it or meet on it. I heavier friendliness to my character.

This is how you do it. When you are trying to add character, you have to heart on it and make it a goal of addition. You then practice it until it becomes instinctive. We do this with our muscles. We practice a particular jump shot in basketball, we practice swinging a commotion, and we practice dribbling a soccer ball all so that our muscles will react instinctively without speculation or conscious direction. Why should good character be any different?