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POSITIVE ENERGY: HOW TO BUILD VITALITY AND STOP ENERGY VAMPIRES FROM Exhausting YOU

By Judith Orloff, M. D.

Apropos from Positive Energy, Harmony Books, April, 2004

I learned to trust my energy needs the hard way. As a psychiatrist who specializes in intuition I knew how important it was to listen to my body. In consummation still I’ d waver between intense weeks of speaking tours to bouts of utter prostration at home. I couldn’ t turn down “ irresistible” opportunities. Here was my dilemma - - I trusted my intuition, and was committed to living by it. But I had a blind spot: Although I was absolutely successful at allotment others at trusting intuition and leading high energy lives I was ignoring my own energy crises. Finally my exhaustion was so profound I had to change.

I know first hand how important it is for us to nurse our precious energy so we don ' t selection our capacity for passion. I now be credulous that the most profound transformations can only take place only on an energetic level. I’ ve met many patients who’ ve spent much time and money on talk therapy happy that intellectual insights will bring emotional freedom, but they’ re disappointed. As much as I love the linear mind, my approach, which I call “ Energy Psychiatry, ” goes further to also speed a conscious rebuilding of a subtle energies, the most basic life force in each of us.

Do You Get Asleep By Other People’ s Energy?

Our bodies are made of flesh and blood, but they’ re also blase of energy fields— though sadly I wasn’ t taught this in medical brainwash. Each day we encounter a wide range of energies, both positive and negative. Positive energy includes compassion, courage, indulgence, and faith. Negative energy includes fear, anger, depression, and obloquy. We need to be experts at dealing with energy so we don’ t get demolished by enervating situations or people who’ re energy vampires.

Like me you may be an intuitive empath, someone who’ s so sensitive to energy you pick it up but you’ re also prostrated by it. This goes way beyond enjoyment sympathy for a raging friend— we perfectly take on their pain either emotionally or physically. To cope we take refuge in waste. We empaths are so attuned to others that we can feel what’ s going on inside of them. This can put us on energy overload and aggravate anything from chronic exhaustion to overeating.

Growing up, my girlfriends couldn ' t wait to hit the malls, but I hateful them. I always felt overwhelmed, exhausted around crowds, though I was clueless why. " What ' s the matter? " friends would say, shooting me the weirdest looks. All I knew was that crowded places and I just didn ' t compound. I ' d go there excitation fine but liberty nervous, depressed, or with some new languish or pain. Unsuspectingly, I was a gigantic swab, magnetic the energy of people around me.

Thank goodness, as my intuition veteran, I realized I had intuitive rapport. Once I learned to protect my energy, harmony has become a bounty enhancing my compassion. Here’ s how harmony works: the more people per square foot, the more our energy fields intersect - - thereupon the tendency to become hustling in high - density areas. This angle of intuition is the most untouched.

Empaths, unintentionally, can make even a good doctor ' s life hell. They present so many " unexplained " symptoms, that frustrated physicians scribble them off as hypochondriacs. Empaths are notoriously misdiagnosed. Patients have come to me with obesity who’ ve failed diets through they needed strategies other than eating to protect themselves from negative energy. Others were labeled " agoraphobic " or with " panic disorder, " having patent only minor relief from general treatments. Some were almost house - bound. They ' d all say, " I dislike crowded places position there’ s no quick escape. Cut dead department stores, busy streets, elevators, tunnels. I just avoid them. " Sounded very recognized. So I decided to take a history of how these people filtered subtle energy in the world, something all health professionals must be trained to assess. Voila! I found many were undiagnosed empaths. For me, this different entity. My job as a physician then became teaching my patients to bull's eye themselves and protect their energy.

A Survival Guide to Protect Yourself from Energy Vampires.

You don’ t have to be an empath to experience the fang marks of an energy vampire, though empaths are much hit the hardest. Relationships are always an energy exchange. To stay reflex our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us energy? Who saps it? It ' s important to be surrounded by essential, heart - centered people who make us feel safe and secure. It ' s equally important to distinguish the energy vampires, who, whether they intend to or not, leech our energy.

Positive energy in others can be rejuvenative. For instance, you ' re nervous about a job interview, but the minute you good your likely boss you relax. He ' s so unruffled and favorable, you undisturbed down too. Or perhaps you have a good well-wisher around whom you always feel loved. These are energy - givers, those we must gravitate towards.

In discrepancy, energy vampires secrete negative energy that drains. Vampires range from the intentionally malicious ones to those who are nescient to their aftermath. Some are self-important and obnoxious; others are beneficial and charming. For precedent, you ' re at a festive occasion vocabulary to a largely prepossessing person, but suddenly you ' re nauseous or weak. Or how about the co - labourer who drones on about how she in want up with her boyfriend for the tenth time?

Eventually, she feels better, but you ' re spent. The bottom line is that on a subtle energy level these people suck you dry.

There are many types of vampires to analog watch out for. The main ones I stress in my book are the Acting Queen who wears your out with her dramas; The Sob Compatriot, who whines all the time; The Blamer, who cuts you down with criticism and The Go - For - The - Carotid type who purposely cuts your down without any respect for your feelings. Keep an eye out for these types so you’ re aware of their methods, and stop them from fatiguing you.

Strategies for Dealing With Energy Vampires

1. Take an record of people in your life who give energy, and people who withdraw. Specifically identify the energy vampires, and prepare to evaluate ones you ' d like to limit contact with or eliminate. Plan at slightest one complete afternoon with people who give off positive energy and avoid drainers. Mind how this beneficially affects your physical and emotional well - being.

2. Set Clear Boundaries. It’ s crucial to limit the time you spend discussing a vampire’ s gripes. When approaching her, flash on: the difference between being a annoyance and setting boundaries is philosophy. Instead of recital, “ You’ re niggardly and self - obsessed, I can’ t take you anymore, ” which a part of you to come feels, take a breath and become to your heart.

3. Meditate. Sitting in meditation is a life - bag to your target, to the creation. it will root you when you’ ve been cut by a vampire. By propitiatory the mind, you can re - rank with your impression. Sultry your eyes. Nerve center on your breath. Then gently rest your awareness downward to strata, bedrock, minerals, and begrime. From the low of your spine make to feel a continuity with the creation ' s core. Narrate having a long top that roots in that core. Concede the creation ' s energy to infuse your body and lodge you. If you meditate for five minutes or an probability this is sacred time.

4. Jaunt away. If you feel your energy being zapped don ' t oscillate to politely explicate yourself from a killing conversation. Action at lead off twenty feet from the person, outside the range of his or her energy field. “ I have to go to the bathroom” is a classical craft. Most people are unknowledgeable to how their energy impacts others. For senescence, reluctant to hurt anyone ' s feelings, I needlessly endured these types of situations and suffered. How many of us are so hate to expose unrefined that a irrational maniac can be right in our face, and still we don ' t budge for fear of offending? In a spot, physically removing yourself is a actual quick solution.

5. Build an energy duck around you. When you’ re with vampires you can’ t get away from pick up a protective camouflage of while light surrounding every inch of you. This lets positive energy in, but keeps negative energy out— particularly efficient for vampires at family dinners or social events position you’ re trapped.

I reliance I’ ve inspired you to be more fierce about asserting your energy needs. Never put yourself down as being “ surpassingly sensitive. ” Sensitivity is an asset as long as you learn how to protect yourself from negative vibes. Understanding how you cope energetically in the world is particularly important if you’ re chronically beat up and want to build vitality. Knowledge is power. Conflict your energy needs can balance mind, body, and spirit to create a vivacious life.

Judith Orloff, MD is a board - certified psychiatrist and a medical intuitive. This article is appurtenant from her newest book, Positive Energy: Ten Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Weariness, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love ( Harmony Books, 2004 ).. She’ s also written the bestsellers Guide to Intuitive Healing and Second Sight. Dr. Orloff is an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and an international workshop precursor. For more information on Dr. Orloff’ s workshops and civic book tour programme tarriance www. drjudithorloff. com.

SIDE BAR

How do you know if you’ re an empath? What are the signs?

Quiz: Are You an Intuitive Empath?

Ask yourself:

* Have you ever sat next to someone at a do who seems pleasant, but suddenly you ' re nauseous, have a headache, or feel fatigued?

* Are you afflictive in crowds, even go out of your way to avoid them?

* Do you get easily over - stimulated by people or lift being alone?

* When someone is in pain, do you start sensuality it too?

* Do I overeat around people I’ m cramped with?

If you ' ve answered " positively " to one or more questions, it ' s likely you have experienced intuitive understanding. Responding " even so " to every issue indicates bond is fatiguing your energy.

Dr. Orloff’ s Tips for Keeping Your Positive Energy High

1. In crowds or stressful situations take a few sunk breaths to eject negative energy from your body

2. Meditate daily to hub yourself— visualize roots going through you and planting firmly in the ground

3. Take daily baths or showers to wash off negative vibes. Water is a potent purifier and can get rid of the slimiest of energies.

4. Burn sage in a room to purify alone over negative vibes. Shrewd is an ancient purifier. ( Many of my patients who work in the entertainment industry use this technique to clear the energy in the room after back - to - back pitch meetings in their office. )

5. Eliminate energy vampires from your life