Part I: Excerpts from an interview with Sarah Maria on her new book " Love Your Body, Love Your Life: 5 Steps to Neb Negative Body Obsession and Start Living Cheerfully and Confidently. "
Debate: I’ ve heard many people say that disliking your body is just a natural part of being a woman [or a man in today’ s culture]. What do you think about such a statement?
This is a very important debate that I inscription specifically in Love Your Body, Love Your Life. Good enough, many people, probably most people, say that disliking your body is a general part of being a woman. If by “ normal” they tight that the majority of women, 80 - 90 %, dislike their bodies, then of course, it is “ normal”. The forever majority of women in this culture at this time do dislike their bodies.
But to think that this is common as in “ natural, necessary, a average function of being alive” is sappy. This understanding is part of the problem. Since it is so everywhere, many women have come to accept that it is just part of being a woman. This is ludicrous! It is settling for what happens to be the seat for many, instead of envisioning the possibilities that are available for all. It is accepting mediocrity instead of creating grandeur. It is maintaining the position quo instead of envisioning the truth.
Disliking your body is only regular in that most women experience it. It is in no way natural, and in no way necessary. You have the ability in each and every moment to love your body and love your life. Negative Body Obsession is a fashionable cultural epidemic. It has not always existed, and it need not always exist. It is in no way a natural part of being alive and can hence be completely eradicated from your function and experience.
Dispute: What led you to address Love Your Body, Love Your Life?
I decided to author this book because I experienced first - hand the intense pain, suffering, and agony that can put together Negative Body Obsession, eating disorders, and low se lf - esteem. I also know that freedom from this hell is completely possible. I want this book to stretch people who are struggling with any and all of the most. There is fool's paradise.
I also wrote this book to help people think critically about concepts such as beauty, as well as the beliefs, thoughts, and ideas that so many people take for yea. Beauty is a socially - constructed phenomenon. Different body types, different looks, and different sizes are considered resplendent at different times in history. In the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, wavy and sensual was considered stunning. In this culture in this century, thin and muscularly toned is considered sexy. When people recognize that there is no inherent truth in these concepts of beauty, that it is in gospel a cultural preference that changes overtime, it helps to dissolve this fault that how they look is somehow decision-making to their value and self - worth as an discrete.
For many people struggling with a negative body image, they accept that how they look is somehow related to their self - worth as persons. Zilch could be further from the truth. When people catch that it is a cultural phenomenon, they can go ahead to free themselves from the whims and preferences of other people and the world around them, and instead discover and experience their own inherent and solo beauty.
Debate: In Love Your Body, Love Your Life, you teach readers how to break free from Negative Body Obsession or NBO.
What exactly is NBO?
Negative Body Obsession, or NBO, is the negative realizing about one’ s physical appearance. It is the entire delusional rationalizing - construct that causes people to think that something is at fault with their bodies and themselves. It encompasses thoughts such as “ I am too fat”; “ I would be more attractive if I lost weight”; “ I looked so much better when I was younger”; “ I need to purchase anti - wrinkle cream – I look so elderly! ”; “ No woman will find me attractive without my hair”; “ The cellulite on the back of my thighs is hideous”.
These are just examples – only you know your particular negative body thoughts. Negative Body Obsession is essentially the savor of having negative thoughts and beliefs about your body and yourself.
It is important to know that NBO exists on a broad spectrum. You might have an sporadic negative body reflection that affects your mood and well - being, or you might live with a near - constant barrage of negative body thoughts on a daily basis. No matter whether your constitution is mild or severe, complete freedom is possible. Many people think that it is a “ normal” part of everyday life, and then it is willing congenial on some level. In reality, there is zot normal about it, and if it affects you, if even just a little enterprise, you are not living with all the freedom that is possible.
Debate: The media plays a role in fostering body dissatisfaction. In your book, you knock out “ when you master the art of vocabulary back, you can reclaim your control and become an influencer of the media, instead of being a victim influenced by the media. ” What are the ways we can talk back?
There are many ways to talk back. In fact, you can probably think of many powerful ways to talk back to the media. I outline a specific exercise in Love Your Body, Love Your Life but the key argument underlying any vocabulary back to the media, or any other “ influencer of your deliberation life”, is by opposing to participate in the process of “ internalization. ”
The problem with the media occurs when you confess it to influence you, when you concede the messages to be internalized. The problem occurs when you look at a picture in a magazine, or on the television shroud, and then take that image to have something to do with you, to be some indication on you and your body. The truth is that the image has obliteration to do with you at all. The problem occurs when you look at the picture and then look at yourself in the mirror and conclude that your life would be better if you looked like that image, or that you would be more attractive if you looked like that image, or that the person in the image is somehow better than you, whatever your particular story is. The fact of the matter is that the photo is in no way a commentary on you.
So the best thing to do with utterance back is to tell the media, the magazine, the movie, whatever, that you are not going to own it to influence you. Master yourself that it has nix to do with you, that it is in no way a display of you. Tell this to whatever you sense is influencing you. Tell the media that it has no power over you at all. You can choose what you let on to influence you.
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